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Being friends with boys, big deal, or no big deal? Story of my life.
I am sure many of you have seen this video about why women and men cannot be friends. If you haven't, watch the video before you read on.

I don't find the reactions in the video surprising, especially, because I can count myself to the number of girls who contradict themselves by believing it is a problem if their boyfriend had a best (or any) woman friend (besides their girlfriend), however the girls themselves do not see having a guy friends (while in a relationship or at any time really) as an issue.
What it boils down to is: women and men are different. No big news. In my opinion the only reason for relationships between girls and boys not working out are the boys. On youtube, many comments posted by boys claim that the reason women react different to the question in this video is because they are in denial. And because boys are being the good people they are by being honest, whereas women are being women and being shallow or contradictory. Oh thank you.

What this tells me is: yes, there might be a low percentage of girls who seek boys as "friends" because they want to be more than friends. In general, however, girls simply believe that the guys they are friends with are absolutely okay with being friends. Why else would they be friends?
And let me tell you boys of this world, girls love being friends with boys because it is so much easier than dealing with girls. If I enter a room with a group of people who I don't know and it's boys and girls, I will always choose to talk to the boys first. They just seem more trustworthy than girls. Boys don't judge you based on your appearance and they tell you the truth in your face and if you don't like it you can just walk away and you'll still be friends. If they don't like you they would probably not start a conversation with you in the firs place.

Girls, on the other hand judge you from the moment you enter the room and they will talk to you no matter if they like you or not. They have a motive: they want to find out about whether you are competition for them or not. It doesn't matter what kind of competition, it's enough to just be another girl. And yes, I think like that myself. Oh there's another girl: I like her clothes, is she cooler than me? Oh she has a really good body, does she look better than me? She's really pretty, I hate her.
Betsey Johnson says: "Girls don't dress for boys; they dress for themselves&each other. If girls dressed for boys, they'd walk around naked."
So true, and it shows, once again, the competitive nature of girls: Girls dress themselves to out-dress other girls. Girls lives their lives in fear of not being as good, as pretty, as adorable, as successful, as cool, as whatever, as other girls. Girls are competition unless they are your best friends. Period.

So dear boys of the world, the answer to the question is this: you don't need to have women friends in your life, because your own guy friends are probably the shit anyways. Let us have our guy friends so we can live in the boy world every once in a while and keep ourselves sane. After all: Boys are the easiest people to be around, unless they are in love with you. So if they are, they wouldn't be your friends, right? Because that would be contradictory and that just wouldn't be guy like. So if a girl wants to be friends with you (a boy) but you want to be more than friends: speak up mister, or walk away. Because, yes, chances are: she REALLY likes you as more than a friend and just hasn't told you because she's not sure what you think. Or she really just wants to be friends in which case you will never become more.

What do you think? After all it's the story of my life&yours. How do you like my stand on this? Totally naive or absolutely true?

XOXO